Creating something beautiful out of tragedy: My Pebble Urn

Written by
Eliza Strauss, Specialist Bereavement Midwife, Perinatal Loss Educator & Co-founder The Perinatal Loss Centre
Founder My Pebble Urn

Memorialisation options can be as unique and varied as the baby or child they honour.
Many parents choose to incorporate symbols, colours, and personal touches that hold special meaning to them. This may include a custom piece of artwork, a handcrafted bracelet, a song, a tattoo or a personalised keepsake urn. Each memorial choice becomes a beautiful tribute to the love, joy, and hopes they had for their baby. A way of feeling connected their baby who has died.

The beauty of these memorialisation options lies in their ability to transform a moment of unbearable loss into something that can be cherished. It can be an act of creating beauty, which may offer the grieving parents a sense of peace and comfort, knowing they’ve honoured their baby in a special and unique way.

​My Pebble Urn is a compassionate business developed by specialist Bereavement Midwife, Eliza Strauss, who makes customised hand-made porcelain urns to hold a baby's ashes after cremation.

More recently, bereaved parents are responding to an increasing demand for meaningful and respectful memorialisation options, often seeking out thoughtful and sensitive ways to remember and honour their baby who has died.
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With the parents’ guidance, Eliza makes personalised clay urns in the shape of heart or pebble, that fosters connection between mothers, fathers and their babies during their difficult time of their loss.

Offering a Path to Connection and Support
Sometimes grief can feel isolating, especially when others may not understand the depth of the loss.
Memorialisation options can offer parents a way to connect with others who have experienced similar pain. Some parents find comfort in joining support groups, creating online memorials, or attending ceremonies where they can share their stories, their babies’ stories, and their ongoing journey of loss and healing.

Commemorating the Parent's Journey
The process of creating or participating in memorialisation options can help parents feel like they have an active role in their grief. It offers them agency over how they want to remember their baby or child, something that is often taken away in the process of the loss itself.
Memorialisation options often recognise the depth of a parent’s grief and the love they continue to carry in their hearts and a way to feel connected to their baby or child.

Memorialisation as a Source of Comfort and Healing
For parents who have suffered the loss of a pregnancy or baby, memorialisation offers an essential opportunity to grieve, remember, and heal. These acts of remembrance allow parents to honour the life of their baby or child, validate their grief, and create meaningful ways to carry the memory forward.
No matter what form it takes - memorialisation may give bereaved parents a way to express the depth of their love and grief. Most importantly, it can provide a source of comfort, connection, and healing during a time that can often feel overwhelmingly lonely and disconnected.
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For more information, please visit: www.mypebbleurn.com.au or email Eliza at [email protected]

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